Talking with Family

This is entirely your choice. There's no obligation to share your therian identity with family, and many therians keep it private. Consider: Is your home environment safe and accepting? Are your parents/guardians open-minded about identity topics? What's the realistic best and worst case?

If you depend on your family for housing, safety, or emotional support, and you think they'd react very negatively, it may be wise to wait until you're more independent. Your safety comes first. Having a supportive online community can fill the need for understanding in the meantime.

If you decide to share, prepare a simple, clear explanation. Avoid jargon at first. Something like: “I've always felt a deep connection to [animal], not like a fan, more like it's part of who I am. There's a word for it: therian. It's been a recognized identity for over 30 years. I'm still me; I just understand myself better now.”

Anticipate questions: “Is this a phase?” (Possibly, and that's okay, but it's also been around for decades). “Did you get this from TikTok?” (Social media helped me find the word, but the feeling has always been there). “Do you think you're actually an animal?” (No, I know I'm human. It's an internal identity, like how some people deeply connect with their heritage).

Parents may be confused, worried, dismissive, or surprisingly accepting. Give them time to process. Their first reaction may not be their final one. Offer resources (Therian Guide, educational videos) if they want to learn more.

If the reaction is negative, don't escalate. Simply say you wanted to be honest and you're happy to talk more when they're ready. Many parents come around with time, especially when they see their child is happy, healthy, and functioning well.

If the reaction is hostile or unsafe, prioritize your wellbeing. Lean on your community, a school counselor, or a trusted adult. You are not wrong for being who you are.